Who all has been waiting for Jada Pinkett-Smith to bring herself to the Red Table to speak her truth on the August Alsina scandal, RAISE YOUR HAND! When I got home from work, the hubby and I queued up Facebook and pulled up our chairs to the RED Table to listen in. And the conversation did not disappoint!
By the end of the show we were both nodding our heads in agreement and applauding the Smiths on coming together in a unified manner to speak their truth, might I add, that was none of our DAMN BUSINESS to began with! I think that there is a level of freedom in speaking your truth without trying to control the narrative. I mean could you imagine being married and having to air your dirty little secrets while the world looks on passing judgment, making jokes, and acting as though we all haven’t done something that we hope the world never finds out about! I swear ya’ll so judgey sometimes! Side eye, me included chile!
So what was our takeaway from the Red Table talk? Marriage is a JOURNEY. It’s not about fast forwarding until we’re 85 and both sitting in our rocking chairs. It’s about what we do in between that time that gets us there. Marriage is fun, and exciting. Every day is an adventure! Don’t let anyone shift the reality of your marriage. If you’re in love, be IN LOVE. But do keep in mind that marriage takes work. Sometimes things happen that shake a marriage to it’s core, that will make you want to forget the vows that you googly eyed spoke to each other. Marriage is two people trying to navigate through life, while both growing individually and collectively, sometimes in the same direction, and sometimes not.
What we appreciate most is the transparency. We’re not saying air all of your dirty laundry, because not everyone can handle that. But what we do need to see is more couples being willing to share the stories of their journey through marriage, the good and the bad. Let’s not forget to acknowledge Will’s role in this situation. It takes a certain level of maturity, openness, and selflessness to stand tall beside your spouse and give them the space to be honest about their journey, especially when that journey hasn’t been pretty. Let’s be honest we live in a world where a woman stepping outside of the marriage, no matter what the man has done, typically is the end all be all for that relationship. We’re not condoning infidelities in marriage, but a marriage is deeply personal. You do what’s best for you. Married people, lets do a better job at helping each other. No one and I do mean no one can get through a marriage alone.
Our advice to engaged couples is to not go into marriage with blinders. Once the wedding and the honeymoon is over, the real work begins. Be honest with yourself and each other about your expectations before the marriage and anytime those expectations change DURING the marriage, because trust us they will. And I’m saying this again, because that’s just how important this tidbit of advice is. DON’T LET ANYONE NOT IN YOUR MARRIAGE SHIFT THE REALITY OF YOUR MARRIAGE. Their opinion is for them and your marriage is for you.
Phil and I will be celebrating two years of marriage in a few days, and one thing we both can tell you is, WE GONE RIDE TOGETHER. WE GONE DIE TOGETHER. BAD MARRIAGE FOR LIFE! (It’s totally a play on BAD BOYS FOR LIFE, so try not to be so sensitive guys ummkay!)
Yours Truly,
The Powers
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