Learn to mentally let go of your perfect plans
the minute you start to think of all the what if’s …..
That’s it. I could write an entire book or two, or three on how to “live in the moment” or how to “live your best life.” But neither of those will happen if you don’t have the mindset that it’s okay to have your life evolve differently than how you initially envisioned. We’ve all been there, me included, allowing our lives to be consumed with the what if’s. What if the boy and I didn’t break up, what if I had gotten that job, what if my daddy had been a part of my life, what if my mom had been there, what if I didn’t get molested, what if I had finished college, what if hadn’t gotten pregnant, what if I hadn’t done that “thing”?
The reality is, usually the things you planned in your head, or placed on your vision board, or dear diaried about that didn’t turn out the way you expected, no one else even knows about them, and if they did…. this may sting a little … no one other than you really cares as much about those things like you do. You see sometimes we have this false sense that if this had happened for me or that had been given to me, that life would be so grand. But we never really take into consideration that some of things that we thought we wanted, we really weren’t allowed to experience those things because they would have triggered a completely different life other than the one we’re currently living.. or failing to live…and not always for the good.
We’ve all done a thing ( SO WHAT!), or had a thing happen to us that has rocked us to our core. And if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably planned out an entire perfect little life for yourself, that you ain’t even close to living. So stop staying up all night beating yourself up over things that were never really meant for you in the first place. Stop holding yourself hostage over incidents that were placed in your life for you to grow through, but instead you’re still wallowing through. Stop holding yourself hostage to embarrassment over things that the only person judging you over…is you. Stop holding yourself hostage to other people, who were undeserving of you in the first place. Stop holding yourself hostage to an enamored version of a life that did not belong to you.
What past embarrassment, fear, negative self talk, and ideas have you held about how your life should’ve, could’ve, would’ve been? Write those things down on a piece of paper… and throw them in the trash. That’s right throw that whole mindset away that life is going to be perfect. ‘Cause perfect ain’t even perfect girl, it’s really all about how you go about looking at a situation, which in return determines how you live through that situation.
Protect Your Pretty Girls!
-Gigi Powers
Founder of Pretty is A Lifestyle: A Life Coaching, Team Building, and Mentoring Company
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